Upfront admission: I am not full on embracing my wrinkles or the parts of me which are not “defying gravity”.
I’m not shying away from them or considering plastic surgery but “embracing” implies a fondness that I’m not feeling.
I don’t love the creaky feeling when I stand after a long sit.
I am, though, over worrying about my upper arm flub.
Okay, that’s maybe an exaggeration. With a ‘mother of the bride’ event or two recently, I was slightly worried. But in the moment, it definitely was not even a passing thought.
It’s everything else that has happened in the past few years that I’m really intrigued by.
The chutzpah that comes when you have enough perspective to know what is important and consequently what it means to speak your mind. Kindly (mostly).
I don’t have time for fake or toxic relationships or superficial chats at parties while your conversational partner is looking past you to see who is more interesting.
Generally, I am over pleasing others. As I said to hubby recently, I still like to be liked but I can’t keep throwing rocks (or allow others to) at my self-esteem.
Weirdly, there are still a lot of growing pains when you get older. Not the physical but the mental.
Like rethinking and reorganizing your perspective. So many things I was brought up to believe and lived by in the past were either off base or outright wrong. The volumes of misinformation I was led to and did believe – well it’s taking my whole midlife to rethink.
And that’s okay.
Perhaps the biggest – and the one which leads to all other fundamental changes – is the view I’ve had of myself.
That one flaw or bad choice (or several) does not undo or truly define you.
That speaking my truth – really loudly – actually can set you free. You just might have to speak it more than once and to the right person: yourself.
I wrote my truth and submitted it to a writing contest. I was so proud of that piece.
I didn’t make the long list. Maybe didn’t even make it past the first hurdle.
But I wrote it.
And it is good.
Because it’s mine. My story, my life.
It hurt like hell.
And healed like sunshine.